Points2Ponder: Why You Shouldn't Marry an Organization

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Why You Shouldn't Marry an Organization

Philipose Vaidyar

"He is a rolling stone; he does not settle in one place!" If he had settled and devoted thirty-five years of service to an organization before retiring, he could have become a “committed and respected staff member”. The organization might have bid him farewell with praise, a colorful bouquet, and a red suitcase bought with contributions from fellow employees. However, how many employers truly care about their staff’s family struggles, parental responsibilities, or children's education? Employees, whether in secular, social, or spiritual organizations, do not join with the intent to fulfill a vow made by their parents before their birth. Just as leaders have families with diverse needs and aspirations, employers should also feel for their staff.

In a certain city, interviews were underway to expand the organization's field staff (let us ignore the job profile) A group of loosely dressed, slim individuals emerged for the written skill and aptitude tests. The interview team consisted of the organization's leader, his wife, and a few directors. Each candidate humbly attended the interview, finally with an opportunity to ask questions if they had any. Most remained silent, like lambs without inquiries. However, as with the Pandanus odorifer leaf, (known as Pookaitha or the Umbrella tree plant), which usually will have at least one thorn that goes against the array, this candidate asked, "Can I know how much allowance I will be paid?" (The organization provided only allowances, not salaries). After a moment of surprise, one of the interviewers broke the silence and responded, "We are not seeking people who expect a salary, but rather individuals with strong commitments." Since he had his own determination the candidate swiftly responded with a challenging comment and left without delay. The outcome of this rebellious candidate's rolling story remains unknown but he would have continued his pursuit in life.

Balancing Lifelong Commitments:

Marriage is a lifelong commitment, a partnership that endures until death separates. It involves embracing differences, overcoming challenges, and wholeheartedly supporting one another. When you make vows in the presence of loved ones and before God, they should bind you together indefinitely, regardless of circumstances. This commitment requires giving your best to uplift, love, honor, and respect each other, forming the foundation of a family.

However, approaching enrollment in a university or joining an organization should be different. It's not a lifelong commitment to study at an institution or work in a specific place. Even if you encounter difficulties, strive to successfully complete your course of study. However, keep in mind that the institution may not always fulfill your needs. In such cases, explore alternatives within the university or consider finding a more suitable environment or course.

Fulfilling Personal Vision in the Organizational Context

When it comes to working in an organization, whether secular or sacred, the aim should be to fulfill your personal vision. It's perfectly acceptable to work in an organization to earn a living and meet your financial obligations, similar to working in a company. If the organization and your role align with your skills, allowing you to contribute effectively, it's beneficial to stay. However, if joining the organization was driven by your vision, and it is not helping you achieve it, it's important to contemplate making a change for your own well-being.

Expanding Your Vision Beyond Employment

Above all, you should have a vision that extends beyond mere employment. Don't settle until you achieve your vision, even if it may be larger than what you can fully accomplish. Work towards realizing parts of it. Your vision should not be limited to your job or the organization you work for. If your vision aligns with the organization's mission, it can be an ideal place to work. However, if it fails to fulfill your vision or meet your needs, it's prudent to consider making a change. If the management is unresponsive and fails to support you, it's best to find a place that meets both your needs and the organization's requirements. The job should be mutually satisfying. Don't prolong your stay if it adversely affects your mental and physical well-being or the needs of your family.

The Illusion of Time Management: Balancing Multiple Commitments

During a conference, a promising leader, who had been assigned to another organization for a leadership orientation, confidently proclaimed, "I give full time to fulfill my call and commitment. I give 8 hours to organization A, 8 hours to organization B, and 8 hours to my family!" The audience couldn't help but wonder he managed to distribute his 8 hours of sleep among all three places! This statement raises questions about the feasibility of effectively balancing multiple commitments and the illusion of time management.

Embracing Equality and Support in Leadership

It's disheartening to discover that some leaders actively impede the success of former staff members in their new endeavors. Employers and team leaders should, at the very least, regard their team members as equals, even if they don't view them in a superior light. Avoid evaluating your colleagues based solely on your own vision or goals. You may not even be aware of their aspirations or the challenges they face. If you haven't taken the time to know your colleagues, listen to their concerns, and offer moral support, you lack the moral right to make negative comments, recommendations, or referrals. Just because you've been able to remain in your job or company for 30 or 40 years doesn't mean everyone should follow your path or stay in their organization when their own vision and family suffer.

Valuing Individuality and Supporting Diverse Visions

Each individual possesses unique skills, valuable experiences, and personal responsibilities toward their families. If a team member expresses a desire to pursue different opportunities, it is vital for leaders to provide support and extend their blessings. It's crucial to remember that not everyone's sole purpose in life is work; many individuals work to sustain themselves. While work may hold significant importance for some, others have broader visions that extend beyond their current employment or organization.

Conclusion: While working in an organization to meet financial obligations is acceptable, it's essential to strive toward fulfilling personal visions. This requires seeking alignment between personal vision and the organization's mission. If the organization fails to meet one's needs or obstructs the vision, it's wise to consider making a change. Leaders should support their team members' success in new endeavors and respect their individuality and aspirations. By offering moral support, understanding colleagues' goals, and valuing unique skills and experiences, both individuals and organizations can thrive as visions extend beyond current employment.

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