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The Cost of Calling

Pat returned, humbled. He accepted the church’s decision, bowed before his bishop, and took his ordination vows with quiet determination. His path had taken an unexpected turn, but he chose to walk it faithfully. When the time came, he married—not Ann, but a woman chosen for him. A new life, a new calling, a new beginning.

Ministry filled his days, but his thirst for knowledge remained. His academic journey began in South India, where he pursued a Bachelor of Science in Zoology, Botany, and Chemistry at a prestigious institution. Though science fascinated him, it was his deepening conviction in ministry that led him to theological studies. He completed his Master of Divinity at a renowned seminary, immersing himself in scripture, doctrine, and pastoral care. With a growing vision for leadership in the church, he later pursued a Master of Public Administration in Public and Non-Profit Management, equipping himself with skills in governance and community service.

Years passed, and life carried him beyond the borders of his homeland. A student visa opened doors for higher theological studies overseas, where he earned a ThM in Church and Society, engaging in deep conversations about faith’s role in an evolving world. With an increasing passion for ethics and justice, he pursued a PhD in Christian Social Ethics, solidifying his place as both a scholar and a church leader.

Alongside his academic growth, his ministry flourished. He moved through the ranks, first as a rector, shepherding a congregation, then as a bishop, guiding clergy and laity alike. In the council of bishops, he found both mentors and friends—leaders who carried the weight of the church with wisdom and grace. He shared the company of distinguished lady bishops, their presence a testament to the evolving inclusivity of the church. The corridors of power were filled with discussion, strategy, and the ever-present question of how to guide a diverse, changing flock.

Yet, amid the respect and recognition, his personal life had its own journey. His children grew up in a foreign land, excelling in their studies, navigating both their father’s expectations and the culture they called home. They attended some of the best schools, moving through academic milestones with quiet resilience. But time, distance, and the unspoken burdens of ministry often made fatherhood a complex path to walk.

Then, life shifted once again.

Decades of ministry, leadership, and academic achievement could not hold his marriage together. The cracks that had formed slowly over the years grew into chasms, and one day, his wife left. The bishop’s robe that had once adorned him with honor now weighed him down. In the eyes of the church, and under the law of the land, he had lost the right to continue as a bishop.

With his marriage dissolved, his status was gone. He could no longer remain in the country he had served for so many years.

So he left.

But where does a man go when the very world he built is no longer his own?

·   How should a Christian leader navigate the tension between personal desires, spiritual authority, and the unexpected changes in life’s path?

·   What is the biblical response to personal failure, broken relationships, and the loss of ministry or status?

·   Where does a believer find true identity, hope, and restoration when everything they have built seems to fall apart?

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 Wrap-Up

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Pat’s journey was one of faith, learning, and leadership. From his early academic pursuits to his rise as a bishop, he dedicated his life to ministry and service. He navigated church leadership with wisdom and embraced the challenges of guiding a diverse flock.

Yet, the weight of responsibility and personal struggles took their toll. His marriage crumbled, and his right to continue as a bishop crumbled. Stripped of his position and forced to leave the country he had served, Pat found himself at a crossroads. The life he had built was no longer his own. But loss is not the end of the story.

·       How should a Christian leader navigate the tension between personal desires, spiritual authority, and the unexpected changes in life’s path?

·       What is the biblical response to personal failure, broken relationships, and losing ministry or status?

·       Where does a believer find true identity, hope, and restoration when everything they have built seems to fall apart?

Reflections From the Word

When the Path Changes: Leadership, Failure, and Redemption

Life does not always follow the course we envision. Even the most faithful, gifted, and learned among us can find themselves in seasons of unexpected change, personal failure, and painful loss. Ministry, success, and recognition may fill one's life for years, only to be shaken by circumstances beyond control. When relationships break, positions are lost, and the future seems uncertain, where does a believer turn? What does Scripture teach us about navigating such moments?

1. How should a Christian leader navigate the tension between personal desires, spiritual authority, and unexpected changes in life’s path?

Throughout Scripture, we see individuals whose lives took unexpected turns—Joseph, Moses, and Paul, to name a few. Their plans were interrupted, their desires surrendered, and their paths redirected by God’s sovereign hand. The Bible calls us to submission and trust, even when life does not go as expected:

"Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you" (1 Peter 5:6)

Personal ambitions and dreams may not always align with God’s plan, but Scripture reminds us that obedience to Him is greater than personal success. Jesus Himself modeled this in Gethsemane, surrendering His will to the Father:

"Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done" (Luke 22:42)

A faithful life is not one free from hardship or detours but one that remains steadfast in trusting God’s purpose, even in uncertainty.

2. What is the biblical response to personal failure, broken relationships, and losing ministry or status?

Leaders in the Bible were not exempt from failure. David fell into sin, Peter denied Jesus, and Paul had personal struggles and conflicts. Yet, in every case, God’s grace was greater than their shortcomings. When David repented, he found mercy:

"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise" (Psalm 51:17)

Even Peter, after his public failure, was restored by Jesus and given a renewed purpose:

"Feed my sheep" (John 21:17)

Failure does not mean the end of one’s calling. Though consequences may come, God's mercy offers restoration. The form of ministry may change, but His purpose for a surrendered life remains.

3. Where does a believer find true identity, hope, and restoration when everything they have built seems to fall apart?

When positions, titles, or achievements are lost, the most pressing question becomes: Who am I, apart from what I have done? The Bible reminds us that identity is not found in status but in being a child of God:

"See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are" (1 John 3:1)

Job, after losing everything, still worshiped:

"The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord" (Job 1:21)

Even Paul, despite suffering loss and rejection, remained focused on the ultimate goal:

"I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:14)

God’s plan is never confined to one season or position. When everything familiar is stripped away, He remains. And in Him, there is always a future, a purpose, and a hope that does not fade.

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The Ulitmate Test: Second of Third Life < THREE >

 The Ultimate Test

Before making a final decision, Pat boarded on a journey across the country to meet Ann’s parents. If not through the church, could they still be together? Could they marry and serve differently? He clung to hope, believing that love and calling could coexist.

The journey was long—days on a train, followed by hours in a wobbly jeep rattling over tough and unsteady mountain roads. The landscape was unfamiliar—rugged, wild, and steeped in tradition. The people carried themselves with quiet authority, their customs deeply rooted in generations of unspoken laws.

When he finally arrived at Ann’s home, exhaustion weighed on him, but his resolve remained firm. He was ready to ask for her hand, prepared to face whatever challenges lay ahead. Ann’s father, a man of stature and power, greeted him with a cold stare. The air was thick with tension.

Pat spoke carefully, his heart pounding, explaining his intentions with deep respect. He could feel Ann’s presence in the background, standing beside her mother and watching silently.

For a moment, nothing. Then, without a word, her father turned and disappeared inside the house.

Pat waited, his pulse quickening.

The door creaked open. Ann’s father stepped out—not with a word, but with a gun. A long, heavy, gleaming firearm.

"If you want life, get out," he said in a strangely calm voice. "Lest I shoot you now."

Pat’s breath caught. The fury in the man’s eyes was not a mere warning—it was a promise. Behind him, Ann stood frozen, her face pale with shock.

His body tensed. Every instinct screamed at him to move.

He ran.

Through narrow, winding paths, stumbling over rocks, pushing past stunned villagers. He ran—not just from death but from the life he thought was his. His dream shattered in an instant.

When he finally stopped, miles away from Ann’s home, gasping for breath, only one thought echoed in his mind:

Live. Live, and minister.

Pat had thought he was walking in God’s plan—but had he?

Pat had barely escaped with his life, but his heart was still entangled in the dream of a future with Ann. Was this truly the end, or was there another path? And what would Ann do now—would she fight for their desire or wait to know the will of God?

How does one truly know God’s will? Can calling and personal desires ever align? Does God speak only through His Word, or does He also work through circumstances, emotions, and the very obstacles that stand in the way?

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Second or Third Life: Biblical Reflections : THREE

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Pat's journey to Ann’s home was driven by hope—that love and calling could coexist. But upon arrival, he faced not only rejection but a life-threatening ultimatum from Ann’s father. Forced to flee for his life, Pat's dreams crumbled in an instant. Was he truly following God's will, or had he mistaken his desires for divine direction? 

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As he grapples with the shock and heartbreak, deeper questions emerge: 

How does one truly know God’s will? Can calling and personal desires ever align? 

Does God speak only through His Word, or does He also work through circumstances, emotions, and the very obstacles that stand in the way?

Reflections from the Word

1. How does one truly know God’s will?

The Bible teaches that God’s will is discerned through a combination of His Word, prayer, the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and wise counsel. Romans 12:2 exhorts believers to be "transformed by the renewing of your mind" so that they may "test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing, and perfect will." Knowing God's will is not always about a dramatic revelation but about growing in intimacy with Him so that our hearts align with His purposes. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust in the Lord wholeheartedly, and He will direct our paths.

2. Can calling, and personal desires ever align?

God often plants desires in our hearts that align with His calling when we delight in Him (Psalm 37:4). Paul’s missionary journeys illustrate this—he had a deep desire to preach the Gospel, yet he remained sensitive to God's direction (Acts 16:6-10). There are times when God’s calling may challenge our desires, requiring surrender (Luke 22:42), but as we mature in faith, we find that His plans are ultimately for our good (Jeremiah 29:11) and that His calling is not burdensome but fulfilling (Matthew 11:28-30).

3. Does God speak only through His Word, or does He also work through circumstances, emotions, and obstacles?

God primarily speaks through His Word (2 Timothy 3:16-17), but He also guides through circumstances, the counsel of others, the inner conviction of the Holy Spirit (John 16:13), and even obstacles. In Acts 16:6-7, Paul was "kept by the Holy Spirit" from preaching in Asia, showing how God can redirect through barriers. Elijah experienced God's voice not in a mighty wind or earthquake but in a gentle whisper (1 Kings 19:11-12). Discernment is needed to interpret emotions and circumstances correctly, ensuring they align with Scripture and God’s character.

Ultimately, seeking God’s will requires faith, patience, and surrender. As we trust Him, He leads us step by step, often weaving our desires, circumstances, and even obstacles into His divine plan.

Seeking God's will is not about presenting all our desires before Him and earnestly praying that He approves and gets those things done. Instead, it is about surrendering our will to His, trusting that His plans are higher and better than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Jesus Himself demonstrated this in Gethsemane, praying, “Not my will, but Yours be done” (Luke 22:42). True faith seeks alignment with God's purposes rather than insisting on personal preferences.

If we know we are called and follow the Master, our attitude cannot be different from His. As Philippians 2:5-8 reminds us:

"In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!" (Philippians 2:5-8, NIV) (Read on Therefore...) 

This was also the attitude of His apostles, like Peter and James, who followed in His footsteps, knowing that “no disciple is greater than his master” (John 15:20). They, too, embraced humility and submission to God's will. As Peter exhorts:

"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time." (1 Peter 5:6, NIV)

Just as Christ humbled Himself, so must we, trusting that in His perfect time, God will lift us up.

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The Crossroad

With graduation behind them, Pat and Ann packed their belongings, sending their books and luggage to Pat’s hometown, believing their future together was just beginning. The next step was seeking the bishop’s blessings for their marriage—a crucial step before they could move forward. But first, Pat had to make a long journey back home.

Those were the days before computerized railway bookings when securing a train ticket required patience and well-advanced planning. Reservations opened three months earlier, and summer holidays or festivals made it even harder. Like many others, Pat had gone to the railway station the night before, joining a queue that had already formed outside the booking counter. Some travelers, eager to maintain order, had torn down an old poster from the wall and scribbled names in the order of arrival, ensuring fairness when the counter opened in the morning.

As the hours stretched on, Pat kept his midnight watch, his mind a whirlwind of emotions. Hope and doubt intertwined—was he truly following God’s plan? Would everything fall into place? The distant rumble of passing trains blended with his thoughts as he drifted in and out of brief, uneasy sleep.

Days later, he finally arrived home and sought a meeting with his bishop, eager for approval. But the conversation did not unfold as he had hoped.

The bishop, though supportive of Pat’s ministry, spoke with solemn finality. “Pat, you cannot marry Ann and continue serving under this diocese.”

The words struck like a hammer. Pat listened, his heart sinking. The bishop explained his concerns—marriage in ministry wasn’t just a personal matter; it had implications for the church, the community, and the mission. Ann came from a completely different culture and language, and she had never been exposed to the traditions and expectations of their region. Would she be able to adapt? Would the congregation accept her as the pastor’s wife? A ministry family was meant to be a reflection of stability, not a source of confusion.

Pat’s mind raced. “But isn’t God’s calling above cultural differences?” he argued. “If we both believe in the same Lord, shouldn’t our unity in Christ matter more than our linguistic and cultural backgrounds?”

The bishop sighed. “It is not about faith alone, Pat. It is about the realities of ministry. A pastor’s family is closely watched. The church members will struggle to relate to her, and she to them. Ministry is already difficult—do you want to add another battle?”

Pat sat in silence, the weight of the bishop’s words pressing against his chest. His love and calling now stood at a crossroads. But could he walk away so easily?

No. He couldn’t let go just yet.

There was still one more step to take—meeting Ann’s parents. If not through the church, could they still find a way? Would her family accept him? And if they refused, would Ann be willing to leave everything behind for him? But was it right to pursue a marriage where a girl had to run away from her family? Would he be able to marry Ann and still find a place to serve in ministry?

So many questions. So much uncertainty.

As Pat prepared for yet another journey, his heart held both hope and doubt. The road ahead was unclear, but one thing was certain—his decision would shape the rest of his life.

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Could cultural barriers stand stronger than the unity found in Christ?

Should obedience to God’s call means sacrificing personal desires, or could the two align?

What happens when faith and duty pull in opposite directions—how does one discern the right path?

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"Second or Third Life": Biblical Reflections - TWO

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The Crossroad 

Pat stood at the crossroads of love and calling, torn between his commitment to Ann and his dedication to ministry. The bishop’s words echoed in his mind, warning of the challenges ahead. But Pat wasn’t ready to give up—not yet. With uncertainty clouding his path, he turned toward the next step: meeting Ann’s parents. Their response could change everything. Would they bless their union, or would this be another door closing? As Pat set out on this journey, he knew one thing—whatever lay ahead, his faith and resolve would be tested like never before.

Questions Raised

Could cultural barriers stand stronger than the unity found in Christ?

Should obedience to God’s call means sacrificing personal desires, or could the two align?

What happens when faith and duty pull in opposite directions—how does one discern the right path?

Reflections from the Word

Life often brings us to crossroads—moments where we must choose between faith and fear, obedience and comfort, God’s will, and human expectations. When facing uncertainty, how do we respond? Do we seek God’s direction through prayer, His Word, and godly counsel, or do we rely on our emotions and the opinions of others?

1. Seeking God’s Will Above Cultural Norms

It’s easy to let culture, tradition, and social expectations dictate our decisions. But God’s calling is higher than human customs or backgrounds. When He calls, He equips. Our unity in Christ should be greater than the barriers people create.

🔹 How do we discern His will?

• Through the Word of God (Psalm 119:105 – “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”)
• Through prayer and the Holy Spirit’s guidance (John 16:13 – “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth.”)
• Through wise counsel from mature believers (Proverbs 11:14 – “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”)

🔹 Are we willing to follow God even when it challenges cultural norms?
🔹 Are we willing to trust that His plan is higher than societal expectations?

2. Ministry: Human Expectations or God’s Direction?

Many times, we allow people’s opinions to shape our choices. We fear rejection, opposition, or failure. But if we are truly called by God, should fear hold us back?

Key Biblical Principles:

• God’s approval matters most (Galatians 1:10 – “If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”)
• Ministry should be Spirit-led, not people-driven (Acts 5:29 – “We must obey God rather than men.”)
• God prepares those He calls (Isaiah 41:10 – “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God.”)

🔹Whose approval are we seeking—God’s or man’s?

🔹Are we making decisions based on faith or fear?

3. When Obedience Brings Opposition

Some of the hardest decisions involve family, friends, or community expectations. Jesus made it clear—following Him comes at a cost (Luke 14:26-27).

Biblical wisdom for difficult choices:

• Honoring God first, while still respecting family (Matthew 10:37 – “Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me.”)
• Seeking godly advice from experienced believers (Proverbs 15:22 – “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”)
• Trusting God’s provision in uncertain times (Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.”)

🔹Are we willing to obey Christ, even when others don’t understand?
🔹Can we surrender our desire for human approval and trust that God’s way is best?

Our Challenge: Trusting God at the Crossroad

Every believer will face a Gethsemane moment—a decision where we must trust God completely, even when we cannot see the outcome. The question is:

🔹Will we lean on our own understanding or trust Him fully? (Proverbs 3:5-6)
🔹Will we let fear stop us, or will we walk forward in faith?
🔹Will we say, “Not my will, but Yours be done” and surrender to His greater plan? (Luke 22:42)

Seeking God’s Will in Every Decision

As children of God and disciples of Christ, we must seek His will in all aspects of life—studies, careers, vocations, finances, travel, and marriage. This process must begin before we become emotionally attached to our desires.

• Consulting God’s Word first, rather than asking Him to approve our own plans (Psalm 37:5)
• Seeking wise counsel from godly mentors, parents, and church leaders (Proverbs 24:6)
• Waiting on God’s timing instead of rushing ahead based on emotions (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

Just as children sometimes demand things that parents know are harmful, God, as our loving Father, knows what is best for us. Will we trust Him, seek His counsel, and surrender our will to His perfect plan?

The crossroad is before us. What will we choose?

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How Do You Begin a Journey… When the Destination is Unclear?

Pat graduated from one of the best colleges in the southern city of India. Sharp, talented, and deeply committed to his faith, he knew his calling—to serve as a pastor. Sponsored by his bishop, he pursued theological studies at one of the finest seminaries. Three years in that multicultural community were enriching, both academically and socially. His musical skills brought vibrance to campus life and worship, making him a beloved presence among students and faculty.

Ann arrived at the seminary from a distant corner of the country, her language and culture entirely different from his. As the daughter of a prominent figure in her society, she lacked nothing—her life at the seminary was secure and full of promise. Their paths intertwined through classes, assignments, skits, and music, creating beats and rhythms that resonated beyond mere friendship.

Their connection deepened. It was more than an academic journey. They envisioned a future together—serving the church, sharing ministry, and building a life that blended their cultures in faith. Their relationship was no secret; the seminary community saw them as one of the assured couples, just like a few others in their batch preparing for marriage after graduation.

First Year: Foundations and Friendship: Seminary life began with the Freshers’ Program, a lively mix of music, skits, and introductions, where Pat’s musical talent quickly made him a favorite. Days were packed with chapel, theology classes, and long library hours, while weekends were spent in church visits and rural ministry. The dining hall buzzed with debates and laughter, while cricket and football matches provided a much-needed break from studies.

Second Year: Growth and Purpose: With increased academic pressure, paper presentations, debates, and late-night study sessions became routine. Library hours grew longer, filled with paper presentations and assignments. Amidst the rigor, social functions—Christmas programs, cultural nights, and choir performances—brought moments of joy and deepened friendships.

Pat and Ann’s paths began intertwining more during these events. They worked together on assignments, participated in ministry trips, and performed duets at chapel services. Their understanding of each other deepened—not just as friends, but as two people who shared a vision of ministry.

A Turning Point

The final year was intense—theme presentations, senior retreats, and theological debates tested their faith and knowledge. The weight of the future loomed as they prepared for their next steps.

The valedictory service was solemn and celebratory, with professors praying over the students. Graduation marked a proud moment as they stepped forward in their robes, ready for ministry.

For Pat and Ann, this was more than an academic milestone—it was meant to be the start of their life together. Their books and luggage were sent to Pat’s hometown, a quiet sign of their shared future. In contrast, the future took a different turn.

Did Pat need a special calling to enter the seminary, or was his path simply unfolding before him? Does being in Bible college guarantee that every decision aligns with God’s perfect will—including finding a life partner for a future pastor? Is seminary truly the best place for such a decision, or does it bring its own set of challenges?

As we dive deeper into Pat’s journey, we’ll see his struggles, choices, and the unseen forces shaping his destiny.

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