Onams in Outskirt Odisha

 

Festivals of a Native People of Odisha

A festival is a dynamic cultural or social event that unites communities in celebrating specific traditions or themes. Festivals intertwine organized activities, rituals, performances, and gatherings, fostering an atmosphere of unity and joy. They transcend mere beliefs or myths, showcasing shared values and historical events. Through festivals, cultural heritage is preserved, social bonds are fortified, and everyday routines are momentarily set aside for jubilation.

Exploring Gadaba Festivals

Step into the world of the Gadaba people, who migrated from the Godavari river belt to Orissa and Andhra Pradesh around 300 to 400 years ago, and encountered their rich festival traditions. With an estimated population of 60,000, Gadaba individuals reside across both states. Distinct linguistic groups—Ollar Gadaba, Mudhili Gadaba, and Gutob Gadaba—share cultural practices while retaining linguistic variations.

The Ollar Gadaba, nestled near the Andhra Pradesh border in Koraput, Orissa, offers a unique landscape. The surroundings boast gently sloping hills, winding roads, and remnants of deforestation, contrasting with sporadic trees and government plantations. In villages like Pandriguda, comprising 30 to 80 houses and 150 to 300 people, the Gadaba way of life unfolds.

A Year of Celebrations

The Gadaba people revel in a festival-rich lifestyle, celebrating 12 festivals throughout the year, each tied to seasons and village life. "Karke Paroop," the mango-focused first fruit festival, stands as a testament to this vibrant tapestry. Notably, mangoes are tasted only after this seven to eight-day celebration.

The Heart of Gadaba Festivals

Festivals constitute the heart of Gadaba life. Each season and village facet is honored through song, dance, merrymaking, and rituals. "Kuse Paroop," in January, sees offerings of new paddy and harvested vegetables to cattle. "Nandee Paroop," following in February, celebrates blessings from the female clan spirit.

A Symphony of Seasons

"Kardil Vatpondi Paroop," marking the transition from February to March, coincides with the harvest of tuvar dhal. The arrival of March signals "Karke Paroop," intertwining the joy of mango plucking with communal dining and hunting.

As the monsoon approaches, "Bowda Paroop" sees villagers crafting raincoats from leaves. November's "Diyali Paroop" pays homage to the goddess Mahalaxmi through buffalo or bull sacrifices. "Jone Punnet Paroop," in July, appreciates the maize harvest with household chicken offerings.

An Ode to Harvests

"Varees Punnet Paroop" in September celebrates freshly harvested paddy, paired with newly harvested pumpkins. October brings "Dasare," akin to Durga Puja. However, December's "Balee Paroop" is not of Gadaba origin, and involves sand-related festivities.

Welcome to Pandriguda, an enchanting tribal village nestled in Orissa, located 40 km from the district capital, Koraput. This bustling hamlet is currently immersed in a festive atmosphere, as the Gadaba people celebrate one of their 12 annual festivals, each closely tied to the changing seasons. This vibrant occasion is Karke Paroop, the inaugural mango fruit festival, marking the time when the succulent mangoes are finally ready to be plucked and savored. This week-long celebration culminates in a grand revelry lasting seven to eight days.

The festivities commence with a day of reprieve, during which all chores and tasks must be concluded before this period of rest. Any labor carried out either within the village or its vicinity on this day incurs a penalty, the severity of which is determined by the village council. As the sun sets, a sumptuous dinner is prepared by select families, organized by clan or neighborhood affiliations. The highlight of this meal is rice paired with the season's initial harvest of mangoes.

With the dawn of the following day, jubilation sweeps through the village, as men and women gather to participate in spirited singing, dancing, or observing the merriment. This collective revelry is accompanied by rhythmic drumming and the distinctive tradition of linked hand movements.

The third-day ushers in playful hunts for the village's children. This serves as both an entertaining pastime for the young and a warm-up for the elder men before their own hunting expedition. Subsequently, the experienced men embark on a hunting excursion, continuing until they successfully capture an animal. Wild pigs are typically the sought-after prey. Triumph in the hunt is celebrated with exuberant festivities. Although alcohol consumption and tobacco smoking are common practices among both men and women, dancing while bearing the head of the hunted pig symbolizes joy and triumph.

In Pandriguda, this day marks the third day of the festival. As I framed a snapshot, the procession momentarily paused. The young boys participating in the procession were meant to represent the hunted quarry—a sparrow and a rat. Although a squirrel or a desirable bird would have been preferred, circumstances dictated that a rat would suffice.

As the procession advances towards the village center and its sacred altar, the entire community gathers beneath the shelter of a grand tree. Elderly women stand ready to receive the youthful hunters, each offered a token of welcome—a dab of moist rice on the forehead and a delicate flower tucked behind the ear. Personally, I too received this gracious greeting, owing to my status as a guest, accompanied by my guide and host family who are warmly embraced by the village. The creatures captured during the hunt will be cooked over an open flame and shared amongst the villagers.

As dusk descended, my companions and I embarked on a guided exploration of the village. Most inhabitants were within their homes, while some women drew water from the well. They meticulously fetched sufficient water for household use and men's bathing. Clusters of women gathered near certain residences, all indulging in homemade rice-based spirits.

Returning to our lodgings, we resumed our conversations over cups of tea. However, the tranquility was interrupted by a growing commotion. A procession was departing the village, destined for another ceremonial puja (worship). Hastening through our final sips of tea, we joined the throng.

Armed with spears and axes, the assembly journeyed to a designated spot on the paved road. A woman had previously adorned this space with cow dung to consecrate the puja ground. All tools and spears were arranged on the ground. Following ritual chants, the leader sprinkled rice grains. Holding a newborn chicken, he released the bird after reciting additional invocations. Once the chicken pecked at the rice, it was swiftly dispatched with the edge of a spear. An egg was positioned atop the scattered rice, standing as a target for bow and arrow. The spear acted as a measuring tool for determining the distance. Precise aim and skilled archery signified a promising hunt on the subsequent day. Participation was open to all; even stone-throwing was permitted, given that few were proficient in using bows and arrows.

Remarkably, one young man managed to strike the egg with a stone. Although he earned the evening's accolades, he promptly fled, aware that he would be required to provide treats in return. Nevertheless, the crowd seized his elder brother, hoisting him onto their shoulders before seating him on a raised stone platform beneath the tree. Routine greetings were exchanged, involving damp rice applied to foreheads and flowers tucked behind ears.

As the sun dipped beyond the hills, shepherds guided their flocks back to the village. Just like every aspect of life in the village, tending to sheep and cattle was a collective effort. Responsibilities were shared, including the rotation of grazing duties. Additionally, hired hands were employed to oversee the herds throughout the year, in exchange for a set fee. The animals streamed through the village en route to their designated shelters, signaling the close of yet another day. With nightfall settling, the time for sustenance, refreshment, and repose had arrived.

With darkness enveloping Pandriguda, the village slipped into tranquility. Absent were the glow of streetlights, as electricity remained absent from this corner of the world.

Daylight emerged around 5:30 AM, prompting villagers to venture into the countryside, each armed with a neem tree branch-fashioned toothbrush, held between their lips. The village elder, referred to as Naik, still slumbered in the front yard, his form cloaked in a nearby blanket.

Naik's wife, Murthal, found solace near an outdoor fire, seeking warmth. Once more, the village women congregated at the well, retrieving water for daily needs. A group of young men emerged from a village corner, two clutching hens—one white and the other black. Their destination was Naik's brother's residence, where it seemed a quarrel had ensued the previous night following a hearty festive indulgence. During this season, disputes and altercations were forbidden, with the common punishment being the contribution of a chicken. When leaders themselves erred, their peers ensured compliance.

Arriving at Naik's abode, the young men sought to retrieve the fourth hen, now joined by the third hen. Swiftly, a resourceful young woman released the hens from their enclosure.

Amidst claims, justifications, and debates, an elderly woman known as Murthal, who struggled to maintain an upright posture, joined the chase. Nonetheless, the determined youths succeeded in securing one chicken. Soon, the four hens would be prepared and shared throughout the village. While disagreements and conflicts might arise, grudges were unheard of. The bond of community held sway, promoting mutual love, respect, and unity. These festive occasions allowed them to revel in each other's company.

The village elders had resolved to postpone hunting until the following day, as they had plans to venture deep into a distant forest. Our time in the village was also drawing to a close. As we readied to depart, a group of women approached each bearing a garland—a gesture of welcome, joy, and acceptance. Customarily, a monetary gift was exchanged. As I posed for a group photograph, a token of my appreciation for their hospitality and affection, I regretted not being able to extend my stay or converse in their language.

A Call to Deepen Understanding

The Gadaba festivals extend a compelling invitation to explore their realm. Captivating and illuminating, these celebrations beckon us to immerse ourselves in their world. At their essence lies resilience, unity, and an innate harmony with nature—qualities that transcend cultural borders. As we engage with their customs, we unravel the intricate threads of their tapestry, paying homage to a community that dances in sync with the rhythms of the land. This purposeful engagement through learning not only honors the Gadaba people and their festivals but also becomes a conduit for meaningful connection. Without delving into their culture, festivals, and faith, our understanding remains incomplete, hindering our ability to connect meaningfully with them, intercede, or advocate for them effectively.

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LIVING STONES AND DEAD PLAQUES

Are we Constructing Church Buildings 

or Building Congregations?

Philipose Vaidyar

When we ponder the act of building churches, do we unintentionally overlook the crucial endeavor of constructing congregations? This observation draws us to examine whether the essence of a church lies within its physical structure or its spiritual community. Delving into the depths of biblical scriptures and historical context, we unravel the significance, shedding light on their harmonious coexistence and divergent implications.

The dichotomy between constructing physical structures and nurturing spiritual congregations is a fundamental consideration in the realm of church development. But does the essence of church-building transcend mere bricks and mortar? Can we glean guidance from biblical verses that underscore the Church's resilience against adversity?

In Matthew 16:18, Jesus' declaration that He would build His church upon an unwavering foundation - impervious to the forces of darkness - illuminates the spiritual fundamentals of church growth. Moreover, the Great Commission to Disciples in Matthew 18:19-20 reveals the mandate to make disciples and teach them everything that He had taught.

Contemplating the role of church leadership, it becomes evident that erecting cathedrals, complete with crosses and altars, might not capture the heart of Jesus' mission. The Church's historical role in evangelization has often led to misplaced priorities, where structures overshadow the essence of faith.

Episcopal churches, in particular, have sometimes faltered in understanding church planting ministry. Despite opposition, the invisible growth of the Church endures in the shadows.

Blunders emerge when church leaders emphasize structural endeavors over cultivating faith communities. Fundraising for grand structures often occurs even in regions lacking the critical mass to support such constructions. Presbyters occasionally prioritize constructing new church buildings, while the needs of existing congregations remain unaddressed.

Examining church plaques that honor clergy and inaugurations, it becomes apparent that the labors of evangelists and missionaries often go unnoticed. This discrepancy between visible recognition and unseen efforts highlights the need for a shift in focus.

 Here is one of the smallest stone plaques that we probably can see (proper names changed). It reads...

TO THE GLORY OF GOD

ST.XXXXX CHURCH -XXXXXXXXXX

NAME OF THE TOWN, NAME OF THE DISTRICT

OLD CHURCH BUILDING DEDICATED BY

BISHOP MOST REV. DR. NAME

IN THE PRESENCE OF

BISHOP RT.REV. NAME-XXXXXXXXXXX

0N MONTHXXX 19, 19XX

NEW CHURCH BUILDING DEDICATED ON

AUGUST 27, 2019

BY

BISHOP REV. DR. NAME-XXXXXXXX

IN THE PRESENCE OF

BISHOP OF REV. DR. NAME-XXXXXXX

REV. NAME-XXXXXXX (VICAR)

If the church leadership emphasizes such external honors, the mission's significance dwindles, and its impact declines. Missionaries and evangelists, serving as frontline witnesses, shape a church's vitality. Recognizing and defining the roles of evangelists, missionaries, and presbyters is vital for a holistic understanding of ministry dynamics.

Historical success stories should guide churches in revising conventional strategies. Tailored approaches, adaptable to different cultural and linguistic contexts, hold the potential for fruitful missions.

The practices followed by congregations in Kerala cannot simply serve as a blueprint for initiating mission fields in other states or even within Kerala itself. Establishing a successful mission requires a clear vision and effective evangelism and church-planting strategies. Mere random appointments and transfers won't yield lasting results.

 

1. Changing times demand evolving strategies; historical practices might weaken in hostile environments, especially in mission fields. Structures of typical architecture and symbols placed can invite unnecessary attention that can be avoided.  
2. Opening a new field necessitates at least two workers, not merely a single individual, and should ideally involve two families. However, independent missions and churches often thrive with single families that commit to long-term dwelling, witnessing, and congregational growth.
3. A presbyter or an evangelist appointed for a three-year term may struggle to yield significant results in a mission field unless partnered with a co-laborer who remains constant.
4. The selection, training, and appropriate placement of individuals are crucial. Pioneering missionaries should be carefully chosen, adequately trained for missions (which might not require a B.Th or M.Div), and equipped with essential resources for survival.
5. A mission field shouldn't be a place for punitive transfers or disciplining candidates.
6. If two persons or families fail to collaborate effectively in a mission field, transferring one of them to another field isn't a suitable solution other than helping a family cope with their struggles.
7. Routine presbyter transfers may be suitable for traditional churches but hinder growth in pioneering mission fields.
8. Church members, mission candidates, and church leadership mustn't assume that poorly performing graduates should be sent to mission fields and academically proficient individuals should be sent for higher studies to be placed in Bible colleges or seminaries.
9. Regardless of urban or rural settings, church missions must focus on personal engagement with the local community, going beyond virtual interactions, digital presentations, and social media posts.
10. Numerous congregations today thrive through the dedication of committed individuals and visionaries who do voluntary mentoring. They flourish within homes, often unseen, among close-knit circles of relatives and friends. These gatherings don't demand elaborate setups like flex banners, microphones, PA systems, or shouting speakers. Instead, they require the living stones of Christ's foundation, bound together by unity in spirit and genuine love for one another and the eternal Kingdom. Such a church can find its place in an upper room, a basement, or even beneath the surface.

A practical and experienced missionary-turned-presbyter, with first-hand experience in church administration, can truly comprehend the dynamics of pioneering mission fields. Such an individual should lead the mission department of a Church or the Church itself, potentially altering the future path of any Church and its missions by redeeming the time.

Conclusion:

In re-evaluating the contrast between constructing churches and nurturing congregations, we confront the essence of the Christian mission. It should transcend grand structures and architectural achievements, encompassing the transformation of lives and the cultivation of spiritual communities. As we navigate the intricate interplay between faith and infrastructure, we are called to embrace a holistic perspective that envisions the church as an embodiment of both the divine and the human, the spiritual and the physical, and the eternal and the temporal.

 “As you come to him, the living Stone—rejected by humans but chosen by God and precious to him— you also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ”. 1 Peter 2:4-5

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 The Power of Love and Support: 

Redefining Our Culture's Approach to Empathy

Philipose Vaidyar

In our culture, there is a paradox when it comes to demonstrating love and appreciation. While people are alive and in need, they often receive minimal attention and support. Hardly anyone among those who visit offers a single flower or some encouraging words. However, once they pass away, there is a sudden outpouring of flowers and wreaths, as if to compensate for the lack of care during their life. This phenomenon raises a crucial question about the way we express affection. Shouldn't we show love and appreciation to the living, rather than waiting until it's too late?

Even if we don't offer a flower or a word of encouragement and support, let us refrain from adding thorns to their lives with our words and deeds. It is disheartening to witness some individuals passing judgment and spreading gossip without verifying the facts or considering the person's perspective. What right do we have to tarnish someone's reputation without knowing the truth? Instead, let us choose to walk with such people, offering empathy and understanding.

Amidst the negativity, there may be silent souls who stand by those going through difficulties, providing unwavering support and helping them overcome their challenges. These compassionate individuals demonstrate the power of genuine care and prove that we can make a positive difference in someone's life by offering a listening ear and a helping hand. Let us be inspired by their actions and strive to be more compassionate, understanding, and supportive to those around us, breaking free from the paradox of love and appreciation and fostering a culture of kindness and warmth.

We must shift our mindset and behavior to break free from this paradox. It is crucial to recognize the importance of showing love and kindness to those who are still with us. Simple gestures, such as offering a flower or a word of encouragement, or even participating in paying their bills or pending payments, can make a profound impact on someone facing hardships. By actively reaching out and offering support, we can bridge the gap between the love expressed in life and that shown after death, creating a more caring and compassionate society.

Moreover, we must cultivate a culture of openness and support when it comes to discussing vulnerabilities and challenges. By eliminating the stigma around such issues, we can create a more empathetic and connected society.

In conclusion, the paradox of love and appreciation in our culture reminds us of the need to redefine our approach to empathy. Let's not wait until it's too late to show love and support. Instead, let us actively demonstrate affection and appreciation to the living, walking alongside them in their life journey. By doing so, we can build a more compassionate society where gestures of love are not reserved for the deceased but generously offered to the living.

“Love should be shown without pretending. Hate evil, and hold on to what is good. Love each other like the members of your family. Be the best at showing honor to each other. Don’t hesitate to be enthusiastic—be on fire in the Spirit as you serve the Lord! Be happy in your hope, stand your ground when you’re in trouble, and devote yourselves to prayer. Contribute to the needs of God’s people, and welcome strangers into your home. Bless people who harass you—bless and don’t curse them. Be happy with those who are happy, and cry with those who are crying. Consider everyone as equal, and don’t think that you’re better than anyone else. Instead, associate with people who have no status. Don’t think that you’re so smart. Don’t pay back anyone for their evil actions with evil actions, but show respect for what everyone else believes is good. If possible, to the best of your ability, live at peace with all people. Don’t try to get revenge for yourselves, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath. It is written, “Revenge belongs to me; I will pay it back, says the Lord”. Instead, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink. By doing this, you will pile burning coals of fire upon his head”. Don’t be defeated by evil, but defeat evil with good".   Romans 12:9-21 

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Why You Shouldn't Marry an Organization

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Why You Shouldn't Marry an Organization

Philipose Vaidyar

"He is a rolling stone; he does not settle in one place!" If he had settled and devoted thirty-five years of service to an organization before retiring, he could have become a “committed and respected staff member”. The organization might have bid him farewell with praise, a colorful bouquet, and a red suitcase bought with contributions from fellow employees. However, how many employers truly care about their staff’s family struggles, parental responsibilities, or children's education? Employees, whether in secular, social, or spiritual organizations, do not join with the intent to fulfill a vow made by their parents before their birth. Just as leaders have families with diverse needs and aspirations, employers should also feel for their staff.

In a certain city, interviews were underway to expand the organization's field staff (let us ignore the job profile) A group of loosely dressed, slim individuals emerged for the written skill and aptitude tests. The interview team consisted of the organization's leader, his wife, and a few directors. Each candidate humbly attended the interview, finally with an opportunity to ask questions if they had any. Most remained silent, like lambs without inquiries. However, as with the Pandanus odorifer leaf, (known as Pookaitha or the Umbrella tree plant), which usually will have at least one thorn that goes against the array, this candidate asked, "Can I know how much allowance I will be paid?" (The organization provided only allowances, not salaries). After a moment of surprise, one of the interviewers broke the silence and responded, "We are not seeking people who expect a salary, but rather individuals with strong commitments." Since he had his own determination the candidate swiftly responded with a challenging comment and left without delay. The outcome of this rebellious candidate's rolling story remains unknown but he would have continued his pursuit in life.

Balancing Lifelong Commitments:

Marriage is a lifelong commitment, a partnership that endures until death separates. It involves embracing differences, overcoming challenges, and wholeheartedly supporting one another. When you make vows in the presence of loved ones and before God, they should bind you together indefinitely, regardless of circumstances. This commitment requires giving your best to uplift, love, honor, and respect each other, forming the foundation of a family.

However, approaching enrollment in a university or joining an organization should be different. It's not a lifelong commitment to study at an institution or work in a specific place. Even if you encounter difficulties, strive to successfully complete your course of study. However, keep in mind that the institution may not always fulfill your needs. In such cases, explore alternatives within the university or consider finding a more suitable environment or course.

Fulfilling Personal Vision in the Organizational Context

When it comes to working in an organization, whether secular or sacred, the aim should be to fulfill your personal vision. It's perfectly acceptable to work in an organization to earn a living and meet your financial obligations, similar to working in a company. If the organization and your role align with your skills, allowing you to contribute effectively, it's beneficial to stay. However, if joining the organization was driven by your vision, and it is not helping you achieve it, it's important to contemplate making a change for your own well-being.

Expanding Your Vision Beyond Employment

Above all, you should have a vision that extends beyond mere employment. Don't settle until you achieve your vision, even if it may be larger than what you can fully accomplish. Work towards realizing parts of it. Your vision should not be limited to your job or the organization you work for. If your vision aligns with the organization's mission, it can be an ideal place to work. However, if it fails to fulfill your vision or meet your needs, it's prudent to consider making a change. If the management is unresponsive and fails to support you, it's best to find a place that meets both your needs and the organization's requirements. The job should be mutually satisfying. Don't prolong your stay if it adversely affects your mental and physical well-being or the needs of your family.

The Illusion of Time Management: Balancing Multiple Commitments

During a conference, a promising leader, who had been assigned to another organization for a leadership orientation, confidently proclaimed, "I give full time to fulfill my call and commitment. I give 8 hours to organization A, 8 hours to organization B, and 8 hours to my family!" The audience couldn't help but wonder he managed to distribute his 8 hours of sleep among all three places! This statement raises questions about the feasibility of effectively balancing multiple commitments and the illusion of time management.

Embracing Equality and Support in Leadership

It's disheartening to discover that some leaders actively impede the success of former staff members in their new endeavors. Employers and team leaders should, at the very least, regard their team members as equals, even if they don't view them in a superior light.  Avoid evaluating your colleagues based solely on your own vision or goals. You may not even be aware of their aspirations or the challenges they face. If you haven't taken the time to know your colleagues, listen to their concerns, and offer moral support, you lack the moral right to make negative comments, recommendations, or referrals. Just because you've been able to remain in your job or company for 30 or 40 years doesn't mean everyone should follow your path or stay in their organization when their own vision and family suffer.

Valuing Individuality and Supporting Diverse Visions

Each individual possesses unique skills, valuable experiences, and personal responsibilities toward their families. If a team member expresses a desire to pursue different opportunities, it is vital for leaders to provide support and extend their blessings. It's crucial to remember that not everyone's sole purpose in life is work; many individuals work to sustain themselves. While work may hold significant importance for some, others have broader visions that extend beyond their current employment or organization.

Conclusion: While working in an organization to meet financial obligations is acceptable, it's essential to strive toward fulfilling personal visions. This requires seeking alignment between personal vision and the organization's mission. If the organization fails to meet one's needs or obstructs the vision, it's wise to consider making a change. Leaders should support their team members' success in new endeavors and respect their individuality and aspirations. By offering moral support, understanding colleagues' goals, and valuing unique skills and experiences, both individuals and organizations can thrive as visions extend beyond current employment.

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Nurturing Children with Diverse Abilities

Nurturing Children with Diverse Abilities

in Education, Learning, Communication, and Socialization

Philipose Vaidyar

Pradeep (name changed) is 20 years old, had struggled in his schooling, and at last, passed higher secondary. The boy does not talk much to people, does not express things well, is mostly silent, and stays at home, say the parents.  The father is well-employed and has not made many initiatives other than earning and providing for the family. Mother does a lot of research on the internet and protects their children well and do not expose them much to the world outside.  Their parents are confused as to which course to join him.  Kevin is 14 years old, you talk to him, and he would only stare at you passively. He does not respond to any strangers or even guest who comes to his home. Give him a mobile or laptop, and he will be glued to the seat. His parents say, he is just like that, he does not talk much to others. At school, he studies well and performs well on the paper.

Every child possesses a remarkable set of qualities and potential, making them truly unique individuals. As social beings, children crave learning, interaction, and growth, but their diverse abilities and disabilities can present challenges in various aspects of their development. Education or learning, communication, and socialization are essential domains where children flourish, but there can also be areas where they face obstacles. In this article, we will explore the importance of acknowledging and addressing these challenges, and discuss strategies to effectively support and empower children with diverse abilities. (Cases of children who can be diagnosed by medical practitioners and treated are not considered here).  Children may be slow bloomers, slow learners, dyslexic or may have dyscalculia or other difficulties that will affect their learning, development and performance.

Recognizing Diverse Abilities:

It is crucial to recognize that each child's journey is different and should be celebrated for its uniqueness. Some children may have exceptional abilities, demonstrating talents and skills beyond their peers. Others may face disabilities that require additional support and accommodations to thrive for overall development.

Learning and Education

Children learn in diverse ways, and it is crucial to provide a variety of strategies to accommodate their unique learning styles. Utilizing visual aids, hands-on activities, multisensory approaches, and alternative assessment methods can establish an inclusive learning environment. Recognizing and reinforcing children's strengths and interests can enhance their motivation, engagement, and overall learning outcomes. Collaboration among educators, parents, and professionals, including special education teachers and therapists, is crucial to adapt educational approaches and unlock each child's full potential.

If a child experiences specific difficulties in a particular subject, the National Institute of Open Schooling (NIOS) offers a selection of subjects and alternative learning and performance options. Universities also have special provisions for students that need to be requested well in advance. These provisions may include the appointment of a scribe, exemption from spelling errors, exemption from second and third language requirements, and an additional 1/3 of the allotted time, among others.

Communication: 

Effective communication is essential for children to express their thoughts, needs, and emotions. Some children may encounter challenges in verbal communication, such as speech delays or language disorders. If identified and deemed necessary, audiology, speech therapy, and other therapeutic interventions provide various options to address these communication challenges. At times, alternative communication systems, assistive technology devices, apps, or computer options can serve as valuable tools to bridge these gaps. Employing thoughtful and creative methods to express or re-express information or experiences enhances children's communication opportunities. It is important to consult children, involve them in decision-making processes, and explain the constraints, limitations, and advantages associated with the choices we make.

Creating ample real-time opportunities for children, appropriate to their age, to observe and learn how we handle things or make purchasing decisions greatly aids in their learning and communication development. Furthermore, daily family time should allow space for children to express their opinions, plans, reflections, or critical comments about various things, experiences, or topics.

Socialization:

Socialization plays a crucial role in a child's development, helping them build relationships, gain self-confidence, and develop empathy. Being part of group settings, especially during the formative years, allows children to learn and grow, shaping their personalities, values, and communication skills. It's important not to confine children to the home and overly supervise their every move, as this can hinder their development, personality, and potential. Most children are naturally curious and eager to explore. It's beneficial to support them on their journey, allowing them some freedom and avoiding excessive control or restrictions. For intelligent and creative children who crave more exploration, facilitate their experiences by taking them to different locations, and workplaces, or introducing them to friends and families. Monitor their activities carefully while allowing them to learn in their own unique way.

Children often have curious minds and may inquire about how everyday items such as paint, furniture, or bricks are made. It might not always be practical to visit a paint factory or other distant locations, but engaging in conversation with a chemist or someone knowledgeable in the field can provide valuable insights for children who have a pressing and for parents who do not have that felt need. If a child expresses interest, visiting places like a sawmill, wood factory, brickyard, or automobile workshop can be easily arranged.

For children with diverse abilities, creating inclusive social opportunities is crucial. Facilitating peer interactions, promoting inclusive play, and organizing group activities that celebrate diversity can foster a sense of belonging and acceptance. It is essential to educate children about differences and promote empathy and respect for one another.

The Role of Parents: 

Parents play a vital role in supporting their children, particularly those with special needs. However, the level of awareness, education, and availability of resources may differ among parents. Some parents may lack knowledge and understanding of managing children with special needs, while others may be well-educated and financially stable. It is important for all parents to recognize the unique nature of their child and take the necessary initiatives to seek, gather and provide appropriate support and services.  

For instance, some parents choose to purchase numerous toys for their children, while others face financial constraints and cannot afford any. There are parents who invest in expensive toys and emphasize careful handling and long-term preservation. It's worth noting that some children, regardless of their gender, have a natural curiosity to break toys and explore their inner workings. However, relying solely on purchasing indestructible building blocks is not necessarily the solution. Therefore, it is crucial to make informed decisions when buying items or services for children, considering their age appropriateness and value for their development.

It's important to avoid discussing or commenting on a child's toy-breaking behavior in front of guests or visitors at home. Doing so can surprise the child and negatively impact their self-esteem and confidence. Exposing a child's mistakes, errors, or disobedience to others does not facilitate behavior correction; instead, it can tarnish their future prospects. Please note that discussions on training, disciplining, and parenting are beyond the scope of this article.

 

Assessment:

Assessment is a critical step for parents to better understand their child's needs before making judgments or assumptions. It is important to recognize that most medical specialists, including psychiatrists and psychologists, may not have comprehensive knowledge about specific learning disabilities. For issues related to learning and education, it is advisable to consult an educational psychologist who specializes in these areas. It is surprising to note that many medical and clinical practitioners are often unaware of learning disabilities in children, despite some claiming expertise in the field. While professionals play a vital role in the assessment process, it is crucial to remember that they too can make mistakes. Seeking second and third opinions can provide a more comprehensive understanding of the child's abilities and challenges, ensuring that the support provided is accurate and effective.

 

Reflecting back on my own experience in the late 1990s, we encountered a specific learning issue with our son. A well-known and senior psychiatrist in Kochi, who had written articles about Dyslexia, diagnosed him as "typical of ADHD" (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and recommended medication. To our dismay, a motivational speaker and teacher suggested resorting to physical punishment by beating him below the knee to break his will. Another discouraging response came from the founder of a counseling institute in Kerala, who consoled us with the statement that not all children can become engineers or doctors, completely missing the point of our struggle, which was simply to help our son complete his schoolwork. Through personal research, internet readings, and discussions with other doctors, we came to the realization that he did not have ADHD, leading us to stop the medications.

Subsequently, a pediatric friend directed us to a psychologist in Bangalore with a Ph.D. in clinical counseling. After two days of critical thinking, it became evident that the psychologist was taking advantage of our situation, offering promises of guiding us to the right school in Bangalore. Finally, at NIMHANS, Bangalore, the possibility of dyslexia was suggested. Due to my mother's hospitalization, I could not continue with the subsequent consultations, but I sought help from another Institute of Cognitive Science in Trivandrum. The assessment process there involved an EEG taken by every consultee and I refrained from an EEG. We enrolled our son in a special learning center in Coonoor for a year, and he was successfully reintegrated into mainstream schooling when we moved to Hyderabad. Despite not having a certification, we joined him in an ICSC school, equipped with our learnings and discussions with management. Nonetheless, our quest for a proper assessment persisted.

In Hyderabad, the most renowned assessment center was an organization run by a famous psychiatrist, which turned out to be an unethical enterprise involving patented medicines and numerous other issues. It was only through the guidance of a special educator that we discovered Chennai to be the best place for a proper assessment. Eventually, in Chennai, we were able to obtain a thorough assessment by an educational psychologist. The certificate we received was transformative for the family, leading us to make significant changes in our approach. After completing the 6th grade in Hyderabad, we relocated to Chennai in 2006. However, our journey continued as we joined a learning center that promised to guide him toward NIOS. After spending a year and a quarter there, we decided to discontinue our association as it did not contribute to our son's developmental progress. Undeterred, we moved forward. In the next center, we found support from teachers, and despite missing the 7th through 10th standards, our son was able to appear for NIOS secondary exams in six subjects after just seven months of preparation. Remarkably, he emerged as the only one among the 16 students from that center to pass the exams that year.

Tailoring Support to Individual Needs

Every child with diverse abilities requires unique forms of support. Some children may benefit from a specialized learning environment, while others may require individualized attention. Certain children may need medical attention, while others may thrive with the dedicated efforts of their parents to foster expression, development, and confidence. Thoughtful interventions should be employed to help children socialize, as each child's journey is distinct and demands personalized attention.

Parental Sacrifices for Child Development

Sometimes, parents may need to make significant sacrifices to support the development of their child with special needs. This may involve leaving or shifting jobs, forgoing promotions, relocations or taking risks to create a conducive environment for their child. Parents must recognize that these sacrifices are essential for their child's formation, development, and future settling in life. The well-being and progress of their child should take precedence over other concerns.

Conclusion

After 25 years, I can observe significant changes in the area of child development. There is an abundance of information and experience accessible if we actively seek it. Additionally, there exist alternative methods to accomplish our objectives, provided we are open to exploring them. Recently I heard of a mother residing in my neighborhood in Kerala. Despite her limited education and humble background, she displayed immense dedication. She diligently gathered information, forged connections with individuals who could assist her, and even stayed up late with her daughter to study for the competitive exam. As a result of her efforts, her daughter excelled in the test and rightfully secured a government seat.

Every child deserves an environment that recognizes and supports their unique abilities and challenges. By embracing inclusive practices in education, learning, communication, and socialization, we create a nurturing space where all children can thrive. As caregivers, educators, and advocates, it is our responsibility to champion the potential of every child and ensure they have the necessary tools and support to embark on their individual journeys of growth, learning, and success. Parents, in particular, play a crucial role in understanding and nurturing their child's needs, making informed decisions, and providing the necessary support and interventions for their overall development and well-being.

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The author, a development researcher and communication consultant, father of three has a son, Joash who was diagnosed with ADHD at an early age and later rightly as typically Dyslexic. Despite this challenge, he trekked a journey of faith, seeking and seizing opportunities for his ongoing education. After completing a Bachelor's degree in visual communication, Joash decided to forego pursuing a master's degree. Instead, he gained valuable knowledge through various programs and work in the media field. Today, Joash is a co-founder of a Healthcare Tech start-up company that has grown to a value of 100 crores, where he also leads the departments of media and user experience.

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